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Letter to a young girl

Laney chanllenged me, assuming it was possible to send letters back in time, to write a letter to myself - aged 13, so here goes.


Dear Stupid,

No scratch that, I haven't been stupid yet, that is still to come.

Maybe I should warn myself about my first BIG mistake I was to make in my life 3 years later.

As I sit here, debating how the hell to tell a strong headed teenager what she shouldn't do at the age of sixteen, I am wondering if I would even listen. What teenager likes to be told what to do?


Dear Ali,

I have to warn you what a waste of space the guy you are going to get mixed up with is. He is one of the biggest a**holes anyone could have the misfortune to meet. Sure, he'll sweet talk you, til he's got you hooked, then he'll show his true, selfish colours. He has no clue as to the meaning of love, despite what he will tell you, and ......

Now see, here's my problem. This was the first guy that I had a physical relationship with. After only a short period of time I was pregnant and he was gone. He came back, which was never great and lasted for about a year, but he mistreated me and was physically violent to my baby in that short time.

You might be asking where my problem is in warning myself to steer clear of him. Without him, I wouldn't have my son, and I wouldn't change him for all the tea in China, and believe me, I have a real tea addiction!

So, I can't write to myself and warn me off him can I? So what would I write to myself.


Dear Ali,

The world is a huge place. It is filled with people from all walks of life. Some you will not care to be around and some will pretend to care and stab you in the back. Some will touch your life for a short period but leave a lasting memory. Others, although few and far between, will be true friends. These are the people you should treasure.

Take time. Don't be in a hurry to greet the next day, you may not like what it has to offer. Instead, make the most of today, of every minute. Be sure to tell those you love how you feel, and do it often. They won't all be around for as long as you might think they will.

Always look forward, it is the only road to be travelled. The past is just that, and no amount of pondering and regret can change it, but you can shape the future by your actions and deeds.

Learn quickly to forgive those closest to you and remember their actions, although painful sometimes, will not have been done to hurt you.

I'll leave you with the only advice you need and wish you Good Luck.


Live. Love. Laugh.

16 comments:

Akelamalu said...

I love your letter - it says it all so well. We have to make our own mistakes, some of us make more than others but hopefully we learn from them. x

Ali said...

Ake ~ I struggled for ages with what to write, so many things came flooding to my mind. I should probably have given myself a good talking too... lol

Elaine Denning said...

Great advice, Ali. You're right...how can we possibly regret the bad things if something so wonderful comes from them?

I hope you're feeling a bit better now....is there any news at all from the police? x

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Unknown said...

This would make a great letter to be opened by a daughter from her mother.
Sorry to read of your recent break in but I have to say you did an excellent job of conveying how it made you feel as you awoke the day after. I hope you are feeling more settled now.

cathy said...

I could have sworn I'd left a comment here! I hope you have recovered from the break in.

Gina said...

Great advice!

Elaine Denning said...

I'm back. Just! x

Digital Flower Pictures said...

Sage advice but it is easy lokking back.

Elaine Denning said...

I miss you :(

Kaylia Metcalfe said...

Every now and then I think about doing this... then I think about what my 50+ self would tell my (current dy) 28 year old self....

Live, Love, Learn are the things I keep coming back to (Laugh is good too)

Lots of L words there :)

Unknown said...

Hey! You've been gone as long as I have, where are you? Hope you're OK etc. I'm back so I'm gonna be missing you......

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This is fascinating; what a great idea!

Gina said...

Hapy new year ali : )

cathy said...

Happy New Year.